There are always more than two choices. Sink or swim? Why can’t I just float? Live to fight another day.
Fight or flee? Why not hide? Or play dead? Or do hundreds of other things besides those two choices? Maybe surrender for now, even.
In one of the first few episodes of Suits, Harvey Spector asks Mike Ross what his choices would be if someone put a gun to his head.
“What are you talking about? You do what they say or they shoot you,” Mike replies.
Wrong, said Harvey.
“You take the gun, or you pull out a bigger one. Or, you call their bluff. Or, you do any one of a hundred and forty six other things.”Harvey Specter, Suits
There are always more than two choices. And at times, you may be presented with two equally delectable choices. There are ways to get both.
You just need imagination, creativity and the will to follow through on whatever action you end up deciding on.
In Secrets of a Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker writes that we should think “both”. It doesn’t have to be either/or.
Sometimes I screw up that saying and tell myself, “Think all.”
What’s the point of having your cake, if you can’t eat it too?