Back in high school when I was captain of the netball team, I used to say, “If you miss a pass, it’s your fault.”
Whether your teammate throws a bad pass or misses a catch, whether someone from the other team blocks the pass, it’s your fault.
It’s your job to do your best to catch whatever pass comes your way.
It’s your job to make the best pass possible — one that reaches your teammate without getting blocked by the opposite team.
It wasn’t about placing blame or finding fault with anybody else, but rather, about extracting the most out of yourself.
Like the stoics, we were hard on ourselves but forgiving with others.
If everyone on the team played this way, we could trust that our teammates were doing the best they could no matter what position they were playing.
And we could trust our teammates not to blame us for our mistakes and instead, constructively discuss how to improve.
We combined this mindset with consistent practice of techniques and strategies, and that year, took home the gold medal.
I realised that this mindset works with other kinds of teams as well.
We go further as a team when we can trust each other, when we push ourselves the hardest, and create environments that enable self-betterment.